Panic Meltdown……The Nice Guy Persona

This post was written by admin on October 24, 2013
Posted Under: Daily Panic Battles
Meltdown in Progress

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Dealing with Panic and Anxiety attacks is a series of events that are circular and repetetive and are taxing, tiring and otherwise just plain difficult; if they overwhelm.  We have SO MANY items coming at us these days.  So much stimuli that we are completely, utterly and pathetically overwhelmed.  Information/misinformation is in abundance.  The issue we that we have is what is true, what is false and what is just pure fabrication?  For every issue that there is to be looked at, there are at least a dozen positive, negative and neutral viewpoints.

So what do we do at this point?  We can’t hide under a rock and must find the strength to persevere in all circumstances.  Recently I embarked on an accidental journey that has taken me to a new place, a new perspective and a new vision.  I believe that the root cause of my panic and anxiety attacks are rooted at one source…….”Nice Guy Syndrome.”  This equally applies to the ladies so don’t feel as though I am leaving you out.  A”Nice Guy” is easily identified from these simple traits…..

Here are the more commonly accepted symptoms:

    • They believe that if they are good, giving, and caring, that they will get happiness, love and fulfillment in return.
    • They offer to do things for a girl they hardly know that they wouldn’t normally do for just anybody else they know.
    • They avoid conflict by withholding their opinions or even become agreeable with her when they don’t actually agree.
    • They try to fix and take care of her problems, they are drawn to trying to help.

  • They seek approval from others.
  • They try to hide their perceived flaws and mistakes.
  • They are always looking for the “right” way to do things.
  • They tend to analyze rather than feel.
  • They have difficulty making their needs a priority.
  • They are often emotionally dependent on their partner.

Can you relate?  Does this sound familar? It really does not matter if you are male or female, married or single and it does NOT just mean dating relationships, but ALL relationships, so what do we do?  How do we break this cycle?  I am on the journey and in posts to come, I will be addressing these issues, and write about my experiences in breaking the “Nice Guy” Syndrome.

It can be done, but the reality is that the STRESS of being the Nice Guy can create more anxiety, which means more panic which means staying exactly where you are.  I will help you as you help me get past this.

Let the journey begin!

 

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